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Sunday, April 04, 2004  

On Kindness and Charity [Part 1 of 2] You must live and hate for the sake of God, for this is one the firmest handholds of faith. The Messenger of God, may blessings and peace be upon him, has said: ‘The best of deeds are love and hate for the sake of God the Exalted.’ When you love the servant who is obedient to God because of his obedience, and hate the one who is disobedient to God because of his disobedience, and not for any other reason, then you are one who truly loves and hates for the sake of God. If you find in yourself no love for the people of goodness, because of their goodness, and no loathing for the people of evil, because of their evil, then know that your faith is weak. Keep the company of the best people and avoid that of the worst; sit with the virtuous and avoid the unjust. The Prophet has said, may blessings and peace be upon him: ‘A man’s religion is that of his intimate, so let each of you consider who to be intimate with.’ And: ‘A good companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion.’ Know that associating with people of goodness and keeping their company implant the love of goodness in the heart and help to practice it, while associating with people of evil and keeping their company implant love of evil in the heart and the love of practicing it. The one who associates closely with a particular group of people, inevitably ends up loving them, whether they are good or evil, and a man is with those he loves both in this world and in the hereafter. Be merciful to the servants of God and compassionate to His creatures, and be gentle and kind, and of engaging manners, and easy to approach. Beware of being callous, coarse, obscene, or difficult to approach. The Prophet has said, may blessings and peace be upon him: ‘God is only Merciful to those of His servants who are merciful; those who show no mercy are shown no mercy.’ And: ‘A believer is affable and easy to approach; there is no good in anyone who is neither affable nor easy to approach.’ Teach the ignorant, guide those who stray, remind the distracted, and beware of neglecting any of these things by saying: ‘Only those who possess knowledge and do practice it can teach and remind; I am not one of them, and so am not worthy to guide [others], for such is the attribute of the great.’ This is nothing but a satanic deceit, for teaching and reminding are part of practicing what one knows, and great men only became great by the grace of God and by their guiding God’s servants to His path. If you are unworthy now, then the only way you can become worthy is to do good and invite people to it. Evil lies only in making claims and leading others to other than the truth. Comfort the brokenhearted, be gentle to the weak and the needy, console the poor, be lenient with the insolvent, and lend to those who ask you. ‘The reward for a loan exceeds that for charity eight times.’ [Hadith] This is because a loan is taken only by one who is in need of it. Console those who are stricken by adversity, for the Prophet has said, may blessings and peace be upon him: ‘The one who consoles a man stricken by adversity, that is, helps him endure patiently, has a reward similar to his.’ Beware of gloating, which is to rejoice at another Muslim’s misfortune, for the Prophet has said, may blessings and peace be upon him: ‘Do not show any gloating in regard to your brothers, lest God release him and afflict you.’ Beware of openly reviling a Muslim for a sin he has fallen into, for the one who does so will be afflicted likewise before he dies. Relieve those in hardship, fulfill the needs of those in need, and keep the sinner’s disgrace concealed. For the Prophet, may blessings and peace be upon him, has said: ‘God shall grant ease to him who eases the hardship of another, and shall conceal, in this world and the hereafter, [the sins] of him who conceals [the disgrace of] a believer; and He shall relieve from one of the Day of Rising the one who relieves a Muslim from one of the hardships of this world; he shall fulfill the need of the man who fulfills his brother’s need. He assists His servant for as long as he assists his brother.’ Remove all [that may cause] harm from the Muslim’s road, for this is one of the branches of faith. It is related in Tradition that ‘I saw a man traveling about in the Garden because of a branch of thorns which he had removed from the Muslim’s road.’ Show compassion to the orphan and stroke his head, for the Prophet has said, may blessings and peace be upon him: ‘When a man strokes an orphan’s head, God records for each hair that his hand has touched ten good deeds.’ Try to gladden the hearts of believers in every possible way, as long as these ways are not sinful. Intercede for anyone who requests it of you with those with whom you are influential, for God will ask His servant to account for his influence just as He will ask him to account for his money. But if a servant falls liable to canonical punishment [hadd] such as that pertaining to adultery or theft, then beware of interceding on his behalf, for intercession in respect of canonical punishments is not permissible. If, following an act of intercession, you receive a gift for it, you should refuse it, for it is a form of usury. Always smile at believers, show them an engaging friendly face, speak well to them, be gentle and ‘lower your wing’ [be gentle, compassionate and responsive] to them. God the Exalted has said to His Prophet: And lower your wing to believers. [XV:88] And the Prophet has said, may peace be upon him: ‘Do not disdain any act of goodness, even should this be meeting your brother with a friendly face.’ And: ‘A kind word is charity.’ It has been handed down that when two Muslims meet and shake hands, a hundred mercies are divided between them, ninety-nine of which are for the friendlier of the two. Beware of breaking off relations with a Muslim for the sake of yourself. If you need to leave him for a religious reason, then do so for no more than three days, for the Prophet has said, may blessings and peace be upon him: ‘The one who deserts his brother for more than three days will be driven by God into the Fire, unless God rescues him through His mercy.’ This relates to desertion for the purpose of discipline; but if it be done because a wrong being committed or a right neglected, then there can be no restoration until he reverts to right conduct. Show delight and pleasure when something good befalls the Muslims, such as the arrival of rains, lowering of prices, or victory over aggressor or disbelievers. Be sad and aggrieved when hardship befalls them such as epidemics, rising prices and seditions. Entreat God to relieve them of such trials, yet you should accept His decree and ordinance. The Messenger of God, may blessings and peace be upon him, had said: ‘The one who is not interested in the affairs of the Muslims is not one of them.’ And: ‘The believers are, in their mutual affection and sympathy, as one body; when one of its organs falls ill, the rest of the body is mutually affected with fever and sleeplessness.’ - Imam Abdallah Ibn Alawi al-Haddad, Book of Assistance (Risalat u’l Mu’awana)

posted by SuFiSTiC | 4/04/2004 09:04:00 AM |
As for him who fears to stand before his Lord and restrains the ego its desires, the Garden is shelter.
(The Snatchers:40)
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "The Fire is surrounded by all kinds of desires and passions, while Paradise is surrounded by all kinds of disliked, undesirable things."
Whoever does good at night is rewarded during the day and whoever does good during the day is rewarded at night. Whoever is sincere in abandoning a desire is saved from catering to it. God is too noble to punish a heart that has abandoned a desire for His sake.
(Abu Sulayman ad-Darani)
Beware of your ego, and trust not its mischief;
The ego is worse than seventy devils.
(Arabic Poem)
Abu Bakar Balkhi
Md Mubaraq
Md Firdaus

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I seek God's forgiveness, and do not claim that my intention in producing this Blog is confined to good religious purposes; how may I do so when I am aware of the hidden desires, egotistic passions, and worldly wishes that I harbour? I do not claim innocence for myself; the ego is indeed an inciter to evil, save when my Lord shows mercy; my Lord is indeed Forgiving, Merciful. O God! I seek Your protection against my committing idolatry [shirk] knowingly, and Your forgiveness for that of which I am not aware! I ask God to make me and all other believers benefit from this Blog and to render my production of it purely for the sake of His Noble Countenance.

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