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Monday, April 05, 2004  

On Kindness and Charity [Part 2 of 2] When a Muslim does you a favor, you must accept it, and thank and reward him. If you cannot reward him, or you fear to offend him, then pray for him. For the Prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, has said: ‘Were I to be offered [as little as] a foreleg or a trotter [as a gift], I would accept it, and were I to be invited to a foreleg or a trotter, I would go.’ And: ‘When someone does you a favor, reward him; if you are unable to, then pray for him until you feel that you have rewarded him.’ And: ‘The one who says to someone who has done him a favor: “May God reward you with goodness!” has given him an exceedingly good prayer.’ Never break a Muslim’s heart by refusing what he offers you, when you know that anything that comes to you through him is in reality from God, and he is only His powerless and compelled means. ‘Anyone who is given something he has neither asked nor longed for and refuses it, has refused to take it from God.’ [Hadith] A great disadvantage attaches to refusal, namely that the common folk are accustomed to respecting those who refuse their gifts, and it may be that some devout people are motivated in their refusal by the wish to display ascetism so that they be thought highly of, which is why a certain authority used ostensibly to accept and secretly dispose of such gifts charitably. But refusal may become either obligatory or recommended in some situations, as follows. Something may be given to you which you either know or have seen evidence that it is illicit, or a canonical charity may be given to you on the assumption that you are deserving when you are not. The giver may be unjust, and persistently so, and you fear that if you accept his favor, your heart will lean toward him and away from what is right. You may know from the man’s behavior that he means by his favors to lead you away from the way of God by means of causing you to assist him in committing an injustice or neglecting the right. Of this nature is anything taken by a judge, a governor, or any other man in authority from either one or both litigants in a case lodged before him. This is prohibited bribery. You must therefore refuse [any gifts given] under any of the above-mentioned circumstances, of which there are others which shall be mentioned in the appropriate places [in the book]. Beware of praying against yourself, your children, or any other Muslim, even if they have wronged you. The one who prays against those who wronged him shall have his prayer answered. ‘Do not pray against yourselves, your children, or your wealth, for your prayer may coincide with one of the times in which prayers are answered.’ [Hadith] Beware of unjustly harming a Muslim or insulting him. The Prophet, may blessings and peace be upon him, has said: ‘Anyone who hurts a Muslim has hurt me, and the man who hurts me has hurt God.’ And: ‘To insult a Muslim is immorality and to fight him is disbelief.’ Beware of cursing a Muslim, and animal, an inanimate thing, or any specific person, even if he is a disbeliever, unless you know for certain that he has died a disbeliever, as in the cases of Pharaoh and Abu Jahl, or unless you know that God’s mercy will not, under any circumstance, reach him, as in the case of the devil. It has been said that the curse uttered by a person ascends toward the heaven but that the gates are locked against it. It then descends to earth, the gates of which are also locked against it, so that it then goes to the one who was cursed, and either finds him vulnerable to it, or else it recoils against its utterer. Effect reconciliation between the hearts of the believers, and cause them to love each other by bringing to light their virtues and concealing their vices. Restore good relations between them, for such a thing is meritorious than supererogatory prayers and fasts, especially when effected between a father and his son, or a man and his relatives, God the Exalted has said: The believers are but brothers, make peace, therefore, between your two brothers.[XLIX:9] Beware of sowing discord through slander, backbiting or anything else such as will result in antagonism and aversion; for this is considered an immense sin by God. Slander is to report the words of one person to another with the intention of creating discord between them. The Prophet has said, may blessings and peace be upon him: ‘A slanderer cannot enter the Garden.’ And: ‘The most abhorrent amongst you to God are those who damage [relationships] between brothers by slander, and create rifts between brethren.’ Backbiting is to say things about a person, in his absence, which he would have resented had he been present, with defamatory intent, whether this defamation be verbal, written, or indicated. The Prophet, may blessings and peace be upon him, has said: ‘Every part of a Muslim is sacrosanct with regard to other Muslims: his blood, his wealth, and his honor.’ And: 'Backbiting is worse then adultery.’ God revealed to Moses, peace be upon him: ‘The one who dies having repented of his backbiting will be the last to enter the Garden, and the one who dies persisting in it will be the first to enter the Fire.’ Beware of injustice, for it will be darkness on the Day of Rising, especially injustice to others, which is never left alone by God. The Prophet, may blessings and peace be upon him, has said: ‘The bankrupt in my nation is the one who comes on the Day of Rising with numerous good deeds, but who has struck someone, insulted someone else, and taken the money of still another; for they will take from his good deeds one by one until, when his good deeds are exhausted, some of their evil deeds are taken and added to his, after which he is cast into the Fire.’ Therefore, if you ever wronged anyone, hasten to emerge from the situation by submitting to punishment if it is a legal offence, asking to be absolved if it is a matter of honor, and returning what you have taken if it is a financial injustice. It is related in Tradition that ‘the one who has committed an injustice against his brother should ask him to absolve him of it before a day comes when there shall be neither dinar nor dirham, but only good and evil deeds.’ If you find yourself altogether unable to make reparations for some of your injustices, then seek refuge in God with sincerity, urgency, and an acknowledgement of your powerlessness, that He may get your adversary to accept you; also pray in abundance and ask for forgiveness for those whom you have wronged. Defend the lives, honor, and wealth of Muslims as you defend your own, whether they be present or not. The one who supports a Muslim will be supported by God, and the one who deserts a Muslim will be deserted by Him. - Imam Abdallah Ibn Alawi al-Haddad, Book of Assistance (Risalat u’l Mu’awana)

posted by SuFiSTiC | 4/05/2004 03:44:00 AM |
As for him who fears to stand before his Lord and restrains the ego its desires, the Garden is shelter.
(The Snatchers:40)
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "The Fire is surrounded by all kinds of desires and passions, while Paradise is surrounded by all kinds of disliked, undesirable things."
Whoever does good at night is rewarded during the day and whoever does good during the day is rewarded at night. Whoever is sincere in abandoning a desire is saved from catering to it. God is too noble to punish a heart that has abandoned a desire for His sake.
(Abu Sulayman ad-Darani)
Beware of your ego, and trust not its mischief;
The ego is worse than seventy devils.
(Arabic Poem)
Abu Bakar Balkhi
Md Mubaraq
Md Firdaus

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I seek God's forgiveness, and do not claim that my intention in producing this Blog is confined to good religious purposes; how may I do so when I am aware of the hidden desires, egotistic passions, and worldly wishes that I harbour? I do not claim innocence for myself; the ego is indeed an inciter to evil, save when my Lord shows mercy; my Lord is indeed Forgiving, Merciful. O God! I seek Your protection against my committing idolatry [shirk] knowingly, and Your forgiveness for that of which I am not aware! I ask God to make me and all other believers benefit from this Blog and to render my production of it purely for the sake of His Noble Countenance.

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